Do you know your worth? Do you know your true value? Some may say you need investors to evaluate your finances and investments to determine your true value or net worth. However, the worth I am referring to has no dollar value. I’m referring to your self worth. What is self worth? Self worth is based upon one knowing she is loved, accepted and was created for a purpose. Self-worth is determined by how one sees herself. Which lenses are you looking through? Is it through the lens of professionalism where you are focused on obtaining position and power within your company? Or do you look through the lens of materialism where you are focused on the clothes you wear, the type of house you have, or the kind of vehicle you own? Perhaps you look at yourself through the lens of perfectionism where you are focused on performance? Or do you peer through the lens of elitism placing importance on particular social groups you participate in?
The self-worth I am referring to is not based upon professionalism, materialism, perfectionism nor elitism. The self-worth of the woman I am speaking comes from who we are in Christ Jesus. She is a woman learning to build her life on the principles of God and understanding the value she obtains that comes from her relationship with Jesus Christ.
I’m reminded of a woman in the Bible who struggled with her self-worth. In reading John 4:4-10 “Now he had to go through Samaria. So he came to a town in Samaria called Sychar, near the plot of ground Jacob had given to his son Joseph. Jacob’s well was there, and Jesus, tired as he was from the journey, sat down by the well. It was about the sixth hour. When a Samaritan woman came to draw water, Jesus said to her, “Will you give me drink?” His disciples had gone into the town to buy food. The Samaritan woman said to him, “You are a Jew and I am a Samaritan woman. How can you ask me for a drink?” For Jews do not associate with Samaritans. Jesus answered her, “If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water.“
The Samaritan woman is so much like many women today. Even though the cultures we live in are different, the battles of self-worth are still the core at each of our hearts.
She was a woman who did not feel loved, accepted nor believed she was created for a purpose. She was a woman running from something or someone. What makes me believe this because her actions spoke louder than any word. Women in those days usually drew water at the end of the day, not in the heart of the day. As you continue to read further down in the passage of Scripture, we find that she had been married five times and the man she was living with now wasn’t even her husband. I believe part of her drawing water at the time of day was she would rather endure the heat of the blistering sun than from the blazing of eyes of others who would look upon her with ridicule and judgmental. How many times do we find ourselves running from our pasts because we can’t bear to carry the marks of shame any longer?
She was a woman who believed the lies of what people spoke about her. Samaritans were considered to be ceremonially unclean to the Jews and the Jews were to have no dealings with them. How many times do we believe the lies spoken over us? Words like “You will never amount to anything?” Or “you are worthless?” “You are a disgrace!” Each of those statements are lies! God states for we are God’s workmanship!
The Samaritan woman had a face-to-face encounter with Jesus. In those moments she realized the unconditional love that He had for her, as well as the extension of His grace bestowed upon her. He also reinforced who she was in Him – a woman was created in His image to fulfill His purpose.
How are you trying to obtain your self-worth? Is is through your possessions or profession? Perhaps you need to have an encounter with Jesus like the Samaritan woman and allow Him to speak to you with words of grace and truth. Just as He extended His mercy, grace and love towards her, He will do so with you too.